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How Do I Cope with Anger?

Everybody gets angry. But, how do you know if your anger is a real concern? This questionnaire will help you assess your ability to cope with anger and determine whether or not anger management is a problem for you. Please read through each statement, recording the indicated number score for each yes or no response. Your responses should be based on your current temperament.

  1. I am quick to forgive others who have harmed or offended me.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 0 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 2 points.)

  1. It takes me a long time to get over being angry.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 2 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I tend to overreact and get angry about little things.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 1 point.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I have taken out my anger on undeserving others.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 2 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I have retaliated with anger when another driver has cut me off or tailgated me.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 2 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I have said malicious things about others to get back at them when I am angry.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 2 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I remain angry or resentful about something(s) that happened years ago.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 2 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I have an unresolved conflict with a friend or family member.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 1 point.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I have an unresolved conflict with someone at work.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 1 point.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. When I am angry with someone, I am able to tell him or her why.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 0 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 1 point.)

  1. When something happens that makes me angry, I tend to replay the event over and over again
    in my mind.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 2 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. When I am angry about something that happens at work, it affects me when I am home.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 1 point.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

  1. I have someone I can talk to when I feel angry or frustrated.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 0 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 1 point.)

  1. I often feel regret about how I express my anger.

(If answer is yes, give yourself 2 points.)
(If answer is no, give yourself 0 points.)

Results
Total your score. If your score is:

0 to 3 points: Congratulations! Your score indicates that you are coping well with anger. Keep doing what you are doing. But if you believe you need help, we can help. Schedule an appointment today.

4 to 13 points: Your score indicates that you may be harboring some resentment or have some difficulty in expressing your anger appropriately. Learning more about anger and the effects of stress will help you avoid problems now and in the future. If you are feeling overwhelmed, contact us.

14 to 22 points: Your score indicates you are having a great deal of difficulty coping with your anger. Unresolved or pent-up anger always comes out inappropriately, causing harm to others, and increases stress in our life. When we are highly stressed we often lose perspective, overreact to little things and inappropriately vent anger on those we love. Contact us today and set up an appointment.

Emotional Intelligence & The Law of Attraction

Emotional intelligence is having the ability to understand the emotions of others, while understanding your emotions. How we think, feel, and say attracts a similar response. For example, if we think positively, then we will attract people who are positive. The laws of attraction signifies the impact we have on others when we use our words. It also signifies the impact that we have on ourselves. Positive energy + emotion = law of attraction. What you feel is what you will attract. The following Ted Talk provides an interesting perspective on EI & Laws of Attraction.

Blue Whale- An Online Suicide Game?

Although it is not clear that an online suicide game exists, this game has been linked to suicide, specifically among teenagers. The game began in Russia. According to the Chicago Tribune, “Essentially a dangerous personal obstacle course of 50 daily tasks that include everything from watching horror films to self-mutilation, the game is rumored to be behind unexpected deaths across the globe. But because the challenge plays out on social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram, the reality is hard to prove. In fact, due to the extreme premise alone, some says it’s just an internet hoax invented to frighten parents and other adults.”

The Miami Police Department has created the following video on the challenge, explaining the clues of the game, as well as the end result.

There needs to be awareness on the internet’s impact on teenage suicide. We need to improve our own literacy on social media and help our children. As parents, it is vital to understand what the non-existent “blue whale” game means.

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13 April 2017: John A. Tures, The Observer: How Terrorists Recruit Female Suicide Bombers, LaGrange, GA.

Dr. Tures recently published an article on Dr. Patel’s presentation at the Western Hemisphere for Security and Cooperation (WHINSEC) on female suicide terrorism. Mr. Tures writes, “The women recruited don’t want equality,” she told my audience. “They want escape, and death is that escape. They do so even though Islam forbids suicide. There’s room to misrepresent this, and terrorists exploit this.” Read More.

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30 March 2017: Western Hemisphere for Security and Cooperation, Ft. Benning, GA

Dr. Patel was one of five panelists selected globally to present at the Western Hemisphere of Security Cooperation at Ft. Benning, GA on March 30th. The Symposium focused on Women, Peace, and Security. Dr. Patel’s powerful presentation on the Psychology of Female Violence presented the impact of neuro-cognitive behavior and neuro-psychological elements utilized by terrorist organizations to recruit, train, and retain Islamic females to execute their suicide missions through the process of radicalization. In this presentation, Dr. Patel briefed military personnel,  from nations belonging to the Western Hemisphere, Iraq, and Egypt with an alternative view of women’s suppression, oppression, and suffrage that is a direct result of gender disparity in a male dominated enclave, supported by religion and culture.

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01 March 2017: Lifegiver Podcast: Bullying It’s Not Just Kids Anymore

Dr. Patel was interviewed by Corie Weathers, Founder of Lifegiver, on her expertise of applying conflict management to combat bullying. The interactive interview sheds light for children, adults, and communities on combating bullying through positive interaction, diplomacy, and collaboration. Click on the link to listen to the interview! Bullying

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